With the announcement of yet another friend's pregnancy via email I find myself caught between a rock and a very hard place.
What am I to do with this information? Do I pretend that I never got the message? Acknowledge the message the next time I see the friend?? Or do I do what my mother has always taught me to do - send a return congratulatory message like any other who holds Emily Post on high. What would Emily Post do (WWEPD)???
In an attempt to keep my good manners on the forefront, I sent a return message expressing how excited I am for the friend and how "I can't wait to hear all the updates". Am I f-ing crazy? What is wrong with me? That type of response is indicative of a fertility challenged girl with a death wish. Geeezzz.
Well, I guess my mother has taught me well. I will always send congratulations to others and try to get all thank you notes out within a month of the occasion for which they are due. Always so dependable except when it comes to the whole 'baby thing'.
3 comments:
I love your response in the reply email. Something I might have done, too. This is a great blog! I hope it will be your outlet and something to depend on during your journey. I'll be following along and cheering you on. Onward and upward we go!
I think you did what you "have" to do. I think there are times to protect yourself, but I also think if we don't congratulate - then what sort of friends are we in the end? If (when?) this all works out, I don't want to regret not participating at some level in my friends' joy. Good luck to you.
I was just chatting with another friend today lamenting the fact that there isn't an IF etiquette book. I'm in a very, very similar situation -- my SIL announced Sunday night that she's 8 1/2 weeks pg. I'll just say that you've handled the situation much more gracefully than I have been able to.